"Just be yourself." This advice, given when someone is facing a challenge or opportunity, advocating that our natural self will win the day is a vote of confidence but is nearly always useless. The problem is that our “natural self” is a mixed bag at best, a blend of empowering and limiting beliefs and experiences and a messy mix of worries and wishes. We have the capacity, and the curse, to shape who we are and define our "self."  A human life is a work-in-progress and we define our self most clearly when we face specific dilemmas. This collection of poetry, questions to ponder, and prompts for writing, helps you to navigate five dynamic dilemmas in life that define who you are and compose the life you live. If you truly want to be yourself, this book is a must read and a worthy companion to anyone who wants to live a genuine life and not the life others and the world might dictate.